Deepening the Roots of Your Confidence

Are you feeling a little shaken these days? Right now, I am hanging on tightly to my confidence in Christ as my lifeline. Confidence in a crisis does not come from our circumstances, it comes from being deeply rooted in Jesus.

“Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.”

Colossians 2:6-7

Because I’m alive in him I can have confidence as I walk through the crisis that each day may bring. Staying grounded in Christ means we have to pause long enough to invite his wisdom and ask for his help to build healthy rhythms into our life. But that pruning process can be painful.

When I think about March to June it literally feels like a decade has passed with all the changes we have gone through as a society. I am normally a pretty confident person and probably annoyingly optimistic to some of the people around me. I am an ESFJ Myers Briggs Personality Type and an Enneagram 7. But lately, I’ve even struggled to hang on to my optimism and confidence.

I had no idea that I would be finishing my coaching certification, homeschooling my children, and building a business in the middle of a pandemic. And most recently, the horrific killing of George Floyd is shaking our justice system to the core around the nation. I said just the other day, “I wish I could just go back to February and live a normal day one more time.” There is no going back, and I now know that in crisis we have the opportunity to deepen the roots of our confidence into something more stable than the circumstances in the world around us. How do I know this?


My life was go, go, go all the time with two small children and million littles things I had my hands in as a leader. I was living on the edge of complete burn out. Everything stopped when I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I realized how shallow my community was because I was spread so thin.

As I was grieving alone, I vowed to do things differently and let this crisis change me for the better. A wise mentor advised me to stop everything. Then, ask God: What would He have me add back in?. The process was hard and painful. Many people in my life did not like being told no. But, when I paused long enough to hear God in my crisis, things changed.

I started taking care of my body. I built a deeper, smaller community of friends. I dated my husband again instead of just helping lead a marriage ministry. I got to be intentional and just play with my kids because we actually practiced Sabbath. I started reading my Bible seriously for the first time in my life (and I already had a Bible degree!) and taking time to just listen to the Lord. I went to therapy and God started healing relationships in my life I thought were hopeless. I took time each month for self-care and did things just for fun (come on my 7s!). And our finances became healthier as we paid off debt and were able to get a game plan for our future. And my confidence grew as I became deeply rooted in Christ, who He created me to be and what He wanted me to do.


Stay grounded in Christ, friends. In times of crisis, we forget to nurture ourselves. Pause long enough to ask God how he wants you to get healthy and whole. Confidence comes from first being deeply rooted in Christ. Then, God can use you in mighty ways to go out and point this world back to Him.


Reflect and ask God which areas of your life need pruning and reshaping to better be able to lead people through crisis with confidence rooted in Christ Jesus.

  • What are the things in your life that you need to scale back?
  • What do you believe God wants from you but you haven’t had the time or energy?
  • What rhythms in your life might you need to adjust to lead from a healthy place?

Please share your thoughts regarding these questions in the comments section.


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Kari Brookins

Kari received a Master of Arts in Counseling from Concordia University Wisconsin (2017) and a Bachelors of Science in K-8 education and Bible from the University of Northwestern Saint Paul (2007). After classroom teaching for 6 years, she became a stay at home mom. Kari lives in Minneapolis, MN with her husband and three children. Recently, Kari completed her certificate as a growth coach, and she is hoping to launch a coaching business to help people struggling with burn out this fall. You can reach Kari at

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