Episode 41: Bouncing Back from a Team Fallout

As leaders you are bound to experience those moments when you are dealing with people and it all falls apart. You question your leadership and you wonder what you could have done differently. It shakes a leader’s confidence. I’ve often said that people are the reason we go into ministry and they are also often the reason we want to throw in the towel. 

Danielle Kelly answers today’s question: “How do you bounce back from a team fallout?” 

Danielle is a pastor’s wife, writer, certified professional life coach, and host of the Unashamed and Free Podcast, leader of women’s ministry at Chicago West Bible Church.

Conversation Tidbits

They tell you during training that there's going to be conflicts, but I feel like nothing can fully prepare you for when it actually happens. (5:40)

You can't skip forward in the journey to confidence. Fallout was like a machete to my identity. You’re deeply cut. You need to lay down and get restoration. You need to let the Lord deal with those wounds.  (9:34)

Condemnation is like you're wrong. And you're never going to get out of it. But I'm like, oh, no, no, no. I think the work of knowing who I am in Christ has helped (13:47) 

I think that I survived the fallouts because of the work that I did beforehand. It's what you're doing in a secret place, daily habits in your relationship with God. When fallout happens, even though you're like, “Whoa, this stinks.” You are more prepared for it because you've had positive things take root inside of you. (18:11)

This does not define me. It doesn't take away my calling. It doesn't. (21:20)

I don't like conflict. Sometimes to get back up, you have to go back into the fire. But you have more control of it this time. (22:48)

Everybody would experience the fallout. And if I didn't address the elephant in the room, it was just going to create more toxicity. (23:42) 

I am a justice girl to the core. I’m like you will not get away with this. The Word has been teaching me, “I will fight your battles”. I will rebuild the team. And you don't need to stand up and prove anything. Let me do it.”  (28:12)

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• Episode 29: Making a “No-Win” Decision 
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